Not another year of New Years Resolutions ? I find it ironic that every year we have a structure in our society which we tolerate where nine times out of ten we set ourselves up for so called ?failure? and another year goes by and we do it all again ? enough already!
I have a process in my education called the ?Ludicrousy Cycle?, and personally speaking New Years Resolutions are just ludicrous ? I do own however how this may land for some of you who diligently make a record of everything you wish to achieve and achieve it ? not aiming this at you ? top marks if this is the case BUT why are we so hell bent on gauging our success on goals we make at the start of the year which for the majority of the population we never achieve.
I have a vocation where I live each and breath goal setting, and not just at the start of the year ? don?t get me wrong, the psychology of a New Year is very powerful but not when it is a structure to keep us disempowered!
Here?s a question for you? ?How many people reading this blog today can say that they achieve what they set out to every year as a result of declaring it as a New Years resolution? ?If the percentage is high then all power to you, if the percentage is medium to low I have my take on why this is?
Top 10 Reasons People Do Not Achieve Goals Set As New Years Resolutions
1. ?SABOTAGE ? we as human beings naturally sabotage anything good in our lives yet hardly ever admit this to ourselves
2. ?EVIDENCE ? we need to find evidence that we cannot achieve x,y,z to prove our default (disempowered listening we have of ourselves) ? does this serve us, not from our empowered self BUT it definitely does from the disempowered self ? history and track record proves where our commitment truly lies
3. ?DISASSOCIATION ? we are disassociated from the costs of keeping a cycle in place that no longer serves us ?- being disassociated from the power of our spoken word keeps that elusive goal outside of our grasp
4. ? JUSTIFICATION ? we love using excuses as to why we cannot achieve xyz ? this lets us off the hook ? if you haven?t noticed it works! ?Couldn?t afford to do it, didn?t have the time, something else came up etc etc
5. ?JUDGMENT ? This is not only with New Years Resolutions but within the human psyche we tend to fly below the radar for showing up above the radar we get judged, assessed and criticized, and yes sometimes from our well meaning friends and family members, those closest to us! ?We can?t be too successful, we can?t stand out, we can?t be too selfish, and can?t be too showy?you get the jist
6. ?WANT VERSUS COMMITMENT PARADIGM ? we live in a false world stating that we are COMMITTED when all the time we are living on the court called ?WANT?. ?If you have not noticed the results are never produced on that court. ?When someone who legitimately thinks that they are committed is challenged, that they are not, they become very defensive because normally they are working their butts off with little or no results are happening ? why ? because they have not learnt the lesson of what it takes to be committed! ?Commitment = Results ? simple formula ? if the results are not produced in the area of your life that you state that you are committed, you are not committed ? sobering thought!
7. ?COURAGE ? there is an unwillingness to confront whats in the way, and an unwillingness ?to be with the resistance for it feels uncomfortable. ?Confrontation, resistance, and feeling uncomfortable are just feelings, they have no power unless you live at consequence to them. ?To be courageous is to embrace these feelings and take the required action anyway!
8. ?NO ROBUST PLAN ? I am a project management queen, I understand the power of planning ? 90% of projects fail because people do not spend time in the planning phase ? and for those who do put the effort in they are not disciplined in what it means to work to plan ? how crazy it that. ?Put all that effort in and then not be disciplined to follow through, why bother! ?Or theres those that love stating 50% complete, 70% complete and keep deferring out ? when you work to plan your word is gospel to accomplish what you say you will within a said timeframe ? NO MATTER WHAT!
9. ?FRUSTRATION ? the epidemic craziness in our society is living in the realm of DOING ? this is not fulfilling, nor satisfying ? what it is, is extremely FRUSTRATING! ?But we tolerate this. ?No one in their right mind would live in the mode of driving, striving forcing if they were associated to the costs of this type of behavior ? but we keep doing it!!! ?To alleviate frustration we need to learn the art of co-creating, thereby manifesting the results to come to us as a function of who we are BEING!
10. ?NO ACCOUNTABILITY OR SUPPORT ? name a successful person and I can guarantee they had support, they had guidance, they had people who held them to account. ?They had conviction from their soul that they would not allow anything to deter them from their goal/s.
So, do yourself a favor and DO NOT write down any New Years resolutions this year UNLESS you are willing to address these 10 points. ?I would prefer you to declare the following ? ?This year I am unwilling to write down any New Years Resolutions because I am unwilling to do what it takes to achieve them? ? that would be a more honest approach and it would save yourself a lot of heartache.
On the other hand if you are willing to do what it takes ? by all means ? GO FOR IT! ?And I commend you for your achievements in advance for I get what it takes to lead a committed life!
If you are wanting support and wish to achieve your New Years Resolutions this year NO MATTER WHAT, then consider calling one of the Freefall Team on 09 488 6764 or book in for a 1 hour free no obligation consultation session with one of our Certified Freefall Coaches
Source: http://www.freefallselfimprovement.com/not-another-year-of-new-years-resolutions/
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